Thom Rainer answers.
Let's think about this for a second. To start the discussion, I suggest that our theology of a relationship with God tends to lead us to expect "our needs" to be met. We are not content with a word and sacrament kind of ministry, administered in the context of faulty human love in the church. We think we need something else, something better.
We must remember that we are living sacrifices. There is no other way to follow Christ than to die to ourselves.
But the glory of it is that as we lose our lives for Christ's sake, we find them. Our deepest needs truly are met as we surrender what we think we need. Like a seed, our lives fall into the ground and die, but lo and behold, they end up producing a hundred fold.